Hello, this is Keith Livingston, welcome to "Learn NLP in a
Flash."

These free, brief, educational segments provide you with solid,
usable NLP techniques you can apply to your life right away. Each
segment will explore the basics of an important and practical NLP
technique.

Today's subject is Rapport...

Rapport is a feeling of trust, ease or comfort between people.
When you have rapport with someone they feel like they would feel
if you were an old and trusted friend. The ability to create this
feeling of connection is vital to your success in personal
relationships, business and your social life. Imagine how much
you could accomplish if you had the ability to create trust in an
instant.

The main techniques for generating rapport revolve around what's
called "matching" or "mirroring" someone's behavior. In short,
you behave like they do. Use your common sense. Don't mimic.
Instead, create fluid, natural similarities in your behaviors.

Here are some quick and easy ways to do that...

Speak at the same rate they speak

Take on a similar posture

Use key words from their conversation

Gesture in a similar way


You see, the brain loves similarity and when it subconsciously,
picks up these similarities in behavior, it says "that person is
LIKE ME!"

I had a chance to hone my rapport skills when living and working
in Russia in 1994 & 95. When I first arrived I didn't speak the
language so I concentrated on non-verbal communication skills to
help me navigate my way through life there. I learned three
valuable things about rapport, in Russia.

1) Rapport, is very, very valuable

2) These rapport skills work cross-culturally

3) If you've ever been somewhere where everyone was speaking a
language you couldn't understand, you know how it zones you out.
I learned a zoned-out, trancy state is extremely valuable for
learning rapport skills - it accelerates your learning a great
deal...

That's it for today's "Learn NLP in a Flash" segment. If you'd
like to learn more about this subject, go to the URL below.

http://www.hypnosisnow.com/nlppower.htm

Until next time, this is Keith Livingston.